The Fundamentals of Italian Cooking Part 1: Emotion, Memory, and Taste

In looking at the fundamentals of Italian cooking there are so many things to consider. To me it all seems to start and end with emotion, memory, and taste. Not classically trained in the culinary arts, I launched into Italian cooking via my emotions, memory, and tastes. It seems that most of us fall into this category. To this day I remember the first thing I made from my first Italian cookbook, Marcella Hazan’s infamous tomato sauce with onion and butter. The first taste blew me away and took me back to Italy. It sealed the deal for me. I had found what I was looking for… an avenue to create wonderful emotions, memories, flavors, and aromas for my family, friends, and strangers. By providence alone I stumbled upon this passion of mine, and I set off to learn Italian cooking.

It all started two years ago when I left our little town on Whidbey Island and moved to the mainland of Washington. The town of Coupeville, WA had a wonderful Neapolitan pizzeria called Ciao. My family and I dined there weekly and enjoyed the flavors and aromas of Italy being recreated in this small restaurant. The place was run by a warm and generous gentleman that attempted to create in America a real Neapolitan pizza joint (he was trained in Italy and even had his cooks trained there). The center of interest of course was the forno. The pizzas that came out of it were authentic. They elicited all of my fondest emotions, memories, and tastes from my travels to Italy. Eating there triggered memories of my mid-day quests for Italian pizza walking the streets of Roma, Firenze, Milano, Elba, and so on. When we relocated to Bellingham, I went in search of a comparable pizza. There were many fine pizza places that the locals raved about, but for me they fell short of evoking old memories, emotions, and tastes of real Italian pizza. I mourned the absence of what I experienced at Ciao and found myself making the near 2 hour trip back there just to get my fix. To overcome the commute, I took on the challenge of trying to recreate this gem in my own kitchen with a desire to create some lasting emotional memories for my girls.


A favorite of mine in the culinary world is Patricia Gray; her writing is something I can get my teeth into emotionally. She is a lovely story teller of traditional Italian cooking that is filled with the raw emotion of the land, ingredients, and dishes. She says, in regards to the cooking of a traditional Italian meal, that ‘An emotional element is involved’– all the way from the hunting or gathering to the prepping, cooking, and serving of the meal- it is an emotional experience.

A meal really is an emotional experience. In the end, you and your family will either like a dish, a meal, or a restaurant based upon emotion. This includes your experience with the food, the service, the environment, and so on. The emotion that is related to that dish will remain! Just ask my kids… they still fault me for serving some 3 day old white fish that we all spit out on the first bite. To this day they are not too fond of white fish.

Yes, cooking certainly involves science and intellectualism. One should take time to learn and understand this side of cooking. However, science and intellectualism alone will only take you so far in the culinary world. One needs to move into the deeper realms of their psyche to explore the emotions related to food they are preparing. Otherwise, there is the risk that the dish may come out wrong, lacking, or worse yet, too ‘perfect’. Marcella Hazan said it best when she said that cooking must be more than just technique ‘because technique alone does not communicate anything.

Just think back to your favorite childhood dish, dinner, or holiday meal, and immediately your senses are flooded with memories and emotions. For me it will always be autumn when our small apple orchard was ripe for picking and my mom baked apple pies and strudels, and my family pressed homemade apple cider. Those memories, emotions, and tastes are locked away in my nostalgic memory bank. I can still smell the ripeness of the apples in the kitchen, the mixing of the dough, and the freshly baked pies cooling on the counter. I will always connect apples and apple pies with emotions of happiness, love, tenderness, and memories of me and my brothers devouring all of our mom’s hard work in mere minutes! Thanksgiving and Christmas meals and all of their fare were also deeply impressionable for me. What are your memories? Take some time and explore them. I would love to hear about them.


I love the word nostalgia when it comes to cooking, and think the two are always interconnected. Its definition is, a longing for things, persons, or situations that are not present (think holidays, birthdays, summer BBQ); and an even simpler definition, homesickness! It comes from a Greek word, nostos, meaning a return home. That is why nostalgia plays such an important role in cooking – it is in our genes, blood, psyche, and so on – humans have returned home each day to gather together and eat food.

There was even a scientific study that showed the power of cooking and memory by Baker, Karrer, and Veeck, in which they identified the ‘three nostalgia-related associations connected to recipes’:

  1. Recipes as part of ritual (holidays, sagras, healing)
  2. Recipes as part of family construction and continuity (generational passing down of family recipes, heirlooms, and bringing family together each night)
  3. Recipes as part of self (happy or memorable events from your childhood) and social/ethnic groups (Italian, Hispanic, Jewish)

So often, I find myself in the kitchen pondering what I should make this evening, and I seem to always find myself going to my memory bank looking for ideas I saw online or in a new book, things I tasted before at other restaurants, foods from a distant past when I last traveled to Italy, or even pulling on ideas from deep in the world’s sub-conscious. It is in the memory storehouse that I can pull forth the richness and history of a recipe, be it something I know by heart or something that is new.

Take for example, ragu alla bolognese. It originated from Bologna, Italy and the first documented recipe dates back to 1891. This dish is known throughout the world and evokes in almost everyone who has tasted it in its purest form such blissful memories of tagliatelle al ragu or lasagne alla bolognese. The cool thing about this dish is it has so much NOSTALGIA linked to it: it has been served at family gatherings and events for centuries, it has a myriad of different family recipes past down from generation to generation, and it is packed with an infinite amount of memorable memories across the world. That is a lot of nostalgia, in one simple dish that a cook can tap into and access if he or she is willing to!

I remember clearly making my first lasagne alla bolognese. I was in the kitchen almost the entire day making from scratch the ragu, b├ęchamel sauce, and noodles. The pure joy of serving something that I reached deep into to try and pull forth its long nostalgic past was exhilarating. Then when I heard my wife exclaim it is exactly how she remembers it being cooked by one of her old Italian boyfriend’s mother, I was elated. I had not only followed exactly the long detailed recipe of this dish, but I had brought forth a dish that evoked in someone the emotions, memories, and taste of something from the past.


Your taste buds are an expansive and powerful storehouse that once awakened, or utilized, will be one of your strongest allies in your kitchen. They can inform you immediately if something is fresh, good, off, old, stale, or even poisonous. When you taste something you are actually ‘touching’ with both your sense of taste and smell; and your sense of smell plays a very large role in your emotional realm of tasting and remembering. Try plugging your nose next time you go to taste something you are cooking- you may be surprised how lacking it is! Taste may trump everything you do in the kitchen and it is worth it to work at developing it- just don’t taste with your mouth though- SMELL everything, at every stage of its development. Give it some time and you will find your sense of taste/smell helping you out more and more. Finally, something to ponder upon: if taste is not one of the most important things in cooking, why does every recipe in the world state: salt to taste?

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America’s Super Rich Look for Love Online

Everyday more and more singles are now going online to meet their dream rich man or woman, there is no shame in seeking to date up. People pay thousands of dollars per year to connect with wealthy, established men and women every day. An unsaid taboo exists within our society about dating rich people. This taboo really is unfounded. People are not always after just money. In fact, dating a wealthy person means freedom more than anything. A lot of men and women want to date someone who can offer them freedom and the luxuries of living a nice life. We all deserve to have a nice life. There are many advantages that come with seeking a rich mate. For example, dating someone without a job can be an emotional disaster. First, it will cause tension between you and your friends or family. And it will, eventually, cause resentment and become a point of contention between the two of you. Men or women who make a little amount of money don’t aspire for much, either. You don’t want people talking about “poor you” in every literal sense of the word, do you? Of course not! Rich dating simply sets your goals high. You can find someone who you’re completely enchanted with and who also happens to have money.

Lifestyle is another advantage. Finding someone who you can connect with, and who can make your life easier with his or her wealth, is every persons dream. Stories revolving around this drive to thrive with a rich mate have existed for decades. Just look at Cinderella! The biggest issue between couples always starts with money. Infidelity comes in second place. Stress over bills, not being able to go out with friends, having to share a single vehicle, and so on aren’t what love is supposed to be about. Wouldn’t life be easier if you eliminated the formalities involved with secretly seeking a wealthy mate? Finding someone on a rich dating website is the simple acknowledgement of wanting a better life. You want to connect with someone who can capture your heart but who also offers stability.

Don’t think of using a rich dating website as “taboo”, its not. Really, it is a matchmaking tool that defines your expectations for a mate and then sets you up with potential candidates. Being rich is as much of a qualifying character as being tall, being Jewish, and so on. Don’t continue to struggle in relationship after relationship because you’re afraid to have it all in life. You can have your cake and eat it too!

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Stop! Jewish Online Dating Tips You Must Not Miss (Only For People Serious About Settling Down)

Who abroad is assuredly accessible to accommodated the ONE online? If you are annihilation like the all-inclusive majority of Jewish singles who apprehend our content, the simple accuracy is that you are ailing of the dating scene, the connected pressure, the ambiguity of not alive area you are traveling to be one weekend afterwards the next, and artlessly wish to accommodated the ONE, right? I apperceive the activity all too able-bodied myself, and accept a few simple pieces of admonition for those of you accessible to yield the next footfall in cultivating absolute relationships through online dating.

Tip #1: Be Honest (With Yourselves First!)

It’s amazing to me how abounding humans I’ve met, and even some of my own abutting friends, who are a bit….let’s just say, LESS than absolutely aboveboard with their dating profiles. In my view, one of BEST signs that anyone is absolutely accessible to achieve down, is their adeptness to absolutely acquaint who they are, what they want, and what they’re searching for…..warts, flaws and frailties included. (We all accept them, right?) Why put a account of yourself from 2002, or account yourself at the weight you’d LIKE to be aback to….or even your acme with 2 inch cape heels? Being honest is actual sexy, and in my opinion, is the baseline from which lots of added appropriate being springs forward, too.

Tip #2: Go Area the Activity Is

Yes, I apperceive there are all kinds of Jewish dating sites out there, and abounding “mainstream” or accepted sites too. But if you accept absitively that it’s important to accommodated anyone aural our ability or acceptance (as abounding of us eventually do) artlessly go area the activity is! Stop aggravating to “cherry pick” Jewish associates from added boilerplate dating sites, and accompany the ones that baby ONLY to added Jews. Makes sense, right? Trust me, if I acquaint you… DOES! (and will for you as well.)

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Jewish Online Dating Services

Since 1997, Jewish dating online casework accept provided a safe abode for adolescent professionals of the Jewish acceptance to accommodated and babble online. Some sites are English only, some Hebrew only, some accept adaptation sites available.

In 1999, Rabbi Yaacov Deyo came up with the abstraction of acceleration dating, a yield on the earlier Jewish attitude of supervised parties for adolescent Jewish humans so that they could accommodated some one, hopefully hit it off, and not ally alfresco of their faith. The article during a acceleration dating affair is to accommodated 10 humans in seven minute increments, account them on a card, and the matches are fabricated by the coordinators by analogous up the account cards and giving the buzz numbers to anniversary party.

Today Jewish humans of all ages can get into the online dating scene, as able-bodied as acceleration dating, through abutting Jewish online dating casework which not alone accept accent specific babble rooms, but sponsor acceleration dating parties in bounded areas.

The better and a lot of acclaimed Jewish online dating website is, with over 500,000 members. This website has been about back the alpha (1997) and is one of the arch Hebrew/English dating sites for Jewish humans of all ages.

Jewish bout caters to all humans of Jewish faith–Orthodox, Reformed, or Reconstuction–and is actual awful user rated, while your ideal date is actual accessible with instructing new users as to how to address their aboriginal profiles. Both are arcane (you will not accept any emails unless both parties accede to the contact) and safe.

Jewish uses photos rather than profiles for primary contact, but afterwards allotment a few photos, you are directed to the contour and can accept as to whether or not you’d like to accompany a relationship.

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